The Best Valentine’s Day Tip I Have: Make it a Surprise

By Carlos Portocarrero

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surpriseFor all you non-planners out there that still don’t have any ideas (or any good ones, anyway) for what to do for Valentine’s day, I’d like to share the best one I’ve ever had.

Granted, it was kind of expensive, so it’s not like I saved a bunch of money doing it, but even as I was planning it I could feel how great an idea it was. After I gave M her “present,” I told myself that this was the best present I’d ever given because she absolutely loved it and I felt incredible giving it to her.

And that’s the gift of completely surprising someone.

Sure, I did my surprise up by planning a whole weekend at a nice hotel suite in the city, complete with theater tickets, a dinner cruise, a day of shopping for a new dress (for her, perv), and breakfast in bed.

But I’ll never forget the look on her face when she began to grasp how big and complex the whole thing had been. The surprise factor was sky high and that was part of why she loved it so much.

But it was only part of it.

The other part was all about the effort. All that planning ahead and all those reservations I had to make—you could smell the effort a mile away. And that’s something that everyone appreciates. It may happen in a second or two, but when you feel like someone went through a lot of trouble, spent a lot of time thinking about what you would like and how you would like it—well, it’s a fantastic feeling.

And before I go, let me also clue all the guys out there on one more thing: no matter how much your girlfriend says she “doesn’t care” about Valentine’s day or getting flowers or doing anything, she does. Boom—stick that in the “things I should just believe” file.

At the minimum, get her some flowers. Don’t do what I did for our first Valentine’s Day, which was basically nothing. I learned my lesson the hard way.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

And ladies, we like to be treated too, so why not go out and whip up a little surprise yourself?

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